Brother and Sister Offended: Resolving Disagreements Biblically

The Bible has a lot to say about our response to being wronged. It also has a lot to say about what we should do when we are the offenders, and how we should handle the responsibility of helping settle disagreements.

We’re sinners, so if we relate to people at all, we’re going to inevitably sin against others and be sinned against. Our children are going to hurt each other and be hurt by each other.

How we deal with those hurts and sins is important.

In this “Brother and Sister Offended” Bible study, we’re going to look at what God says about this very important topic.

  • What are we supposed to do when someone sins against us? Or when we think someone has sinned against us?
  • What are we supposed to do when we sin against someone else – intentionally or unintentionally?
  • How can we make peace?
  • How do we resolve disagreements?
  • What do we do with a child (or adult) who delights in seeing someone else get in trouble?
  • Or with a child who gives a false report or someone’s wrongdoing?
  • How do we handle our role as mediator and judge between disagreeing children?
  • How do we learn to forgive?

How we answer these questions profoundly affects our relationships in our families and in the church.

If we don’t learn to handle disagreements and offenses biblically, we’ll be plagued all our lives by petty arguments, church splits, divorces, bitterness, and strife.

  • As we study, we’ll be looking at Matthew 7 and Matthew 18.
  • We’ll look at the wisdom found in Proverbs.
  • The commands in the New Testament letters
  • and at examples we see in the lives of men and women in Scripture.

We’ll come up with a plan, based on Scripture, of how to teach our children and how to apply the same truths in our own lives.

When we’ve finished our study, my prayer is that you will be better prepared to face and resolve disagreements in your own life, and better equipped to teach your children to live at peace with each other.

Lessons by Email (members only)

Bonus Resources (members only)

Course Information

Estimated Time: 31 days

Difficulty: Level 4


Course Instructor

Pam Forster Pam Forster Author

Member Access

3 months of access

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What Others Have Said

For YOU, not just Your Kids!
By: Susan Menzmer

I “thought” I wouldn’t get much out of this study personally, as my oldest child is fledged and I only have one daughter still living at home. Not too many people to argue with, when you are living basically as an only child! But once I started into the study, I quickly realized that this study was not JUST for children (although it would be EXCELLENT for using with your kids), this study was for ME! The Bible has SO MUCH to say about EVERYTHING in my life!!! I was amazed constantly by how applicable to MY life and MY interactions with people this study was! I would encourage everyone to do this study, as it will improve your interactions and relationships with every single person that is in your life!

Excellent study for everyone
By: Kim Pressnell

I'm so grateful for having gone through this study. It’s a great study for mom’s with children at home, but it’s also applies to us as adults and how we ourselves handle disagreements and offenses in our own lifes. My children are grown, but I’ll be able to use this with my grandchildren, not to mention myself. If you want a deeper relationship with God, both personally and as a parent/grandparent, and desire to learn better skills for teaching children how to deal with offences, whether it being done to them or they’re the offender, then do this study! Please don’t think because have no children at home that this study isn’t for you, one of the best things about it is that this study is not just teaching our children how to deal with disagreements, but us as well. It reminds us to look at the heart, and not just the wrong that’s been committed. The checklists are definitely so helpful in guiding both us as well as the children, to become better equipped in resolving conflicts in a biblical, godly manner. I highly recommend this study!